A saying from Anthony Robbin:
Success is to create pleasure on your life and making yourself to grow; Failure is able to find pain no matter how good it is!
While learning a lot from Anthony Robbins, I just read another great book by Chen An Zhi- "How to successfully be rich?" (translated). I won't drill down into the $$$ part as it's quite sensitive to some people, however, I would like to hightlight some important points about why people fail? Yes, it's true, we have been always searching, learning and practicing how to be successful, but we seldom look at the opposite, which is why we fail? Imagine if you are practicing the rules of success but at the same time committing to actions that lead you to failure, how well will you perform?
There are plenty of factors mentioned by the author, however, I will list down the three main ones, which are:
1) Lack of Goal (No Goal)
- Many people include me wants to be successful, but how? What do we want to achieve? How can we achieve the goal?
- Thus, defining your own goal is important. Try asking yourself, what do you plan to achieve today?
2) Goal is not recorded
- Oftenly, we have a goal but they are not recorded. When we are asked, "Do you have a goal? Where do you record them?"; most of us will just answer "Yes, I have many goals. I just remember them and keep them in my brain." That's in fact the exact answer I have given to my girl friend when she asked the same question. That's funny right? Yes, it's one of the root to our failure
- Besides, the goal should be specific and reasonable/achievable too! You can't say I want to earn more money. But how much is more? RM1 more than current is considered more too! Also, you can't expect to earn 100K in the next month while your current salary is only 3K. Though it might happen, but it's not reasonable.
3) Changing Goal
- Many of us keep on changing our goal after we have set one.
- We need to define short term, medium term and long term goal such that they are in sync and able to assist you to achieve what you have set.
- Set your dreams high, but set your goal reasonably.
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Today, I have a great time with my friend/leader who helped/trained me to see things differently. He shared with me many insights and we have gone through some motivation materials by Anthony Robbins. Thus, I would share with you some essence I managed to capture (quoted from Anthony Robbins):
1) "The past is not equivalent to the future".
2) In order to change our life, we need to know where we are heading (our goal), make a decision to achieve it (take action), evaluate the result and change our approach if it's not working.
3) Use role models or learn from people who have succeed to help us speed up our pace to achieve success.
4) "Failure and Fear can be your best friend".
5) "Everything we do is driven by need to avoid pain and desire to gain pleasure". Thus, when changing your behavior, focus on how not changing is more painful than changing and how changing brings more pleasure.
6) "Use pain and pleasure instead of pain and pleasure use you"