I have just read a free eBook - Tame Your Brain! by Jan Tincher recently and found that some of the techniques the author shared on helping us to find personal success pretty interesting.
I would like to grab this opportunity to share what I have learnt from the author on Anger Management. As we are aware that anger could ruin our life and health, but how do we manage and control it to lead to disaster? The author has proposed that writing a letter to ourselves is an effective way to achieve that. The author describes that there are 6 levels involved in healing anger, in which each level has 2 feelings associated to it, in particularly the following:
Level Feeling associated to the feeling
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Anger ( blame & resentment )
v
Hurt ( sadness & disappointment )
v
Fear ( insecurity & wounds )
v
Regret ( understanding & responsibility )
v
Intention ( solutions & wishes )
v
Love ( forgiveness & appreciation )
In the letter, we write a sentence per feeling. Each will lead to more and we write all of them until we can't write another sentence for that feeling anymore.
For the feeling, you could start with the following but not necessary a must to start it that way:
Blame: I blame you for _______
Resentment: I resent the fact that _______
I resent you for ______
Sadness: You make me sad when you ______
Disappointment: You disappoint me when you ______
Insecure: In feel insecure when you ______
Wound: You wound me when ______
Understand: I understand the situation as ______
Responsible: I feel responsible when _______
Solution: I feel a solution might be ______
Wish: I wish ______
Forgiveness: I forgive you for ______
Appreciation: I appreciate the fact that you ______
Remember to send the letter to YOU AND ONLY YOURSELF, but not other people, otherwise it defeat the purpose.
A new year with a new beginning! Happy new year to you.
The year 2005 ended with positive and negative events. My service to our company's partner ended in the mid of December followed by wedding ceremony of my gf's sister. Soon after that were my dad's brain surgery, my resignation to the company and joining of new company in the new year. It sounds pretty ad hoc and everything happened just within a very short 3 weeks.
However, I personally feel that the greatest achievement is the opportunity to be offered by a worldwidely known MNC. With this, I have achieved and exceeded the goal I have set in year end of 2004 in terms of salary. Besides, as I have promised to my gf, within a year the figures has a 50% increment of what I was acquiring in year end of 2004.
With the entry to the MNC company, the scope has increased tremendously to looking at the world map & looking at millions and billions! The potential to grow has increased tremendously too. The paradigm switch gets me excited and nervous in the beginning, however, time to get into serious business has come too.
After induction/orientation programme I attended yesterday morning, it has gave me a glance of what I shall prepare for the near future with goal setting and planning. At the same time, synchonization of the work's goal and personal's goal is extremely important. Some work has to be done! :)
Anyway, I have came across an interesting writing on "Insight of Success" (by Kamaruddin B. Hassan) which I would like to share with you too. The element of success can be abbreviated into a positive word- GRATEFUL:
Goal
Relationship with others
Attitude
Time Management
Effective & Efficiency
Follow-Up
Under Promise & Over Delivery
Love
Besides, I would like to extract a few of his compilations in his book, which is mainly by Napolean Hill:
"When an opportunity came, it appeared in a different form and from a different direction. That is one of the trick of opportunity. It has a sly habit of slipping in by the back door, and often it goes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat. Perhaps this is why so many fail to recognise opportunity."
"Success comes to those who become success conscious. Failure comes to those who indifferently allow themselves to become failure conscious."
"The longer you work in the right direction, the closer you are to success. Too many men give up when success is within he grasp. They leave it for someone else to capture."
"Wishing will not bring riches. But desering riches with a state of mind that becomes an obsession, then planning definite ways and means to acquire riches, and backing those plans persistence which does not recognise failure, will bring riches."
"... Life's battle don't always go to the stronger or faster man, but sooner or later, the person who wins, is the man who thinks he can!"
"Broadly speaking, there are two types of people in the world. One type is known as leaders, and the others as followers. It is no disgrace to be a follower. On the other hand, it is no credit to remain a follower."